Friday night I was feeling so many different emotions than I am feeling today, on Monday afternoon. I had to do a weekend intensive at my school, a weekend of 20 hours of Prenatal Yoga. Friday night I was sad about spending the weekend away from my family, essentially I felt as if I was going to waste the whole weekend. I had no idea what was in store for me, and I left the first class Friday night feeling so much more excitement for the few days to come. I left Sunday evening so sad that it had come to an end. What transpired over the weekend was a beautiful gathering of women, a sisterhood, where we shared, laughed, cried and formed a beautiful sacred where we came together.
What is a Sisterhood Circle?
A sisterhood circle is a gathering of women from all different ages, backgrounds and ethnicities, coming together for a period of sharing and bonding. Traditionally, in the past, women were much more connected than we are now. If you haven’t had a chance to read the book The Red Tent, I highly recommend it, as it is all about ancient times and the connection of women circles. Women would gather monthly, usually in a tent of sorts, where they menstruated together. This allowed for the women to share, open up, tell and pass down stories to the children, and create unshakeable bonds. If one of the women was expecting, and about to give birth, all the women would gather in the tent and assist with the birth. Allowing the mother to rely on her sisters, aunts, cousins and friends in a way that seems to be disconnected from us now. We no longer gather monthly in order to share and bond with other females. I feel personally, that this may have been what led us to the feeling modern women have these days towards each other- that cattiness and feeling of competition between one another. We’ve lost touch with other women in that deep, sacred way. And I feel all of us are longing for that back.
How do we get the bonding back?
Start small. Is there a woman you see in public who is has a beautiful feature about her? Our first reaction may be jealously, or cattiness. Change that thought process. Approach her and compliment her. Does she have gorgeous skin? Say it. Is her outfit adorable? Compliment her and notice her face light up. She isn’t your enemy. She has the same feelings as you do, and she is probably longing for a deeper connection to womankind as well- and your approach and compliment nudges her in the direction of knowing that it is possible. This is a slow approach to warming back up to other women, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable in order to form those deep bonds.
Begin to reach out to women you really resonate. Ask them to do something with you- a hike, yoga, a trip to the bookstore. Begin that deep friendship. Allow others in. Meet up regularly, and you are on your way to forming your own sisterhood circle. Once your in it, the point is to be completely vulnerable. Don’t hold back. Allow yourself to be seen, and to see others. There is no jealously within a goddess circle. There is no gossip, judgement, cattiness, complaints. There is a sense of nurturing, comfort. It is a completely sacred and safe place to be yourself and allow yourself to be held up by a strong and supportive group of women.
A few beautiful quotes from The Red Tent:
“If you want to understand any woman you must first ask about her mother and then listen carefully. Stories about food show a strong connection. Wistful silences demonstrate unfinished business. The more a daughter knows about the details of her mother’s life – without flinching or whining – the stronger the daughter.”
“I could not get my fill of looking. There should be a song for women to sing at this moment or a prayer to recite. But perhaps there is none because there are no words strong enough to name that moment.”
“They sang the words in unison, yet somehow created a web of sounds with their voices. It was like hearing a piece of fabric woven with all the colors of a rainbow. I did not know that such beauty could be formed by the human mouth. I had never heard harmony before.”
“We have been lost to each other for so long. My name means nothing to you. My memory is dust. This is not your fault, or mine. The chain connecting mother to daughter was broken and the word passed to the keeping of men, who had no way of knowing.”
If you have this beautiful network in your own life I would love to hear about your experience in the comments.
love and light.